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The Time Someone Told Me My Blog Is a Waste

Hey Mr. [redacted],

Remember me? We met at an event on Thursday night before a social media conference. You were there because you had a VIP ticket—boy did I not realize just how much of a VIP you were.

I walked up to you and introduced myself, because that’s what I do. I’m friendly like that. You explained how you ran blogging conferences yourself, to which I replied, “Hey! I’m a blogger!” You told me to come to a conference sometime. Sweet.

Then came the red flags. You immediately asked for my blog reach. Not the name, not the topic, but the reach. Who asks about reach? Did you also want to know my salary and weight and marathon time? No…just, no. But rather than abandon ship right then and there, I told you. To which you replied, “Oh. These conferences aren’t for you. They’re for advanced bloggers only.” Um, come again?

I kept my cool and listened to you talk. I absently nodded while you carried on about how real bloggers offer readers something of value. Bad bloggers have “me” blogs—they only talk about their lives and experiences and no one cares. Those blogs are a waste of space. And Disney runners and bloggers? They’re all shit.

I half-heartedly countered you on a few points, but I was honestly thinking more about what to cook for dinner and how I can take your small ass down in an instant than listening to your sales spiel. I had checked out by that point. I don’t do crazy. It wasn’t until I stepped outside that the full impact of our conversation hit me. And by the time I got home, I was like the Tasmanian Devil—ready to destroy anything and everything in my path.

So, listen up asshole. I am well aware that my blog can be perceived as selfish or narcissistic. I write about myself. Don’t fucking read it if you don’t like it. I get that I’m not your target market. I don’t have the 50,000 views/day that let me into your elitist club. Does your clique wear pink on Wednesdays, too? At the moment, I have no desire to make “hundreds of thousands of dollars” (your words, not mine) by writing a how-to textbook. That’s boring and not me. So I should take everything you told me with a grain of salt. But you’re still walking around running your fucking mouth and spewing complete bullshit, so it does affect me. And you will hear about it.

People blog for a variety of reasons. Yes, some do want fame and fortune and therefore write every post with that as their end goal. Those folks are the ones who may attend your socialite parties. There’s nothing wrong with that. Others, like many bloggers in Birmingham and I, blog just to have a place to capture all the thoughts flying around our heads. And we hope that by sharing our experiences—however random or boring they may be—others can relate or learn from them.

Some blog posts should be informative, yes. They may get a lot more traffic and back links, yes. But if readers only wanted to read “How to Run Efficiently” or “10 Ways to Tie a Shoe,” they’d pick up a fucking book. Or go to an informational website, not a blog. Blogs capture emotions. They allow us a glimpse into other peoples’ lives and show us that there’s someone else out there who is is sharing a similar life experience, or one that’s completely different and intriguing. If a “me” blogger reaches just one person and makes an impact through telling his or her story, it makes it all worthwhile.

Let’s apply your logic to life, shall we? So anyone who isn’t elite at what they do shouldn’t enjoy it as just a hobby, yes? If you’re not an NBA player, don’t bother playing a pickup game over the weekend. No 4-star chef rating? No restaurant or food truck for you. Back of the pack runner? Might as well keep your ass planted on the couch. What a lovely world to live in.

You, sir, do not get to determine who is and isn’t a good blogger. But if you want to play that game for a moment, let’s. Your blog? It sucks. Badly. Your views are questionable at best, your writing style is abrasive, boring and uninviting, and you have grammatical errors all over the damn place in your posts. Oh, I checked out your Twitter feed and you can’t use social media for shit. Social media is just a megaphone, right? No need to actually talk to people on social media, just yell at them and tell them how much their blog sucks. Yet you’re successful. Color me confused.

Your (fake) following
Oh, is this what you call success? Unengaged Twitter followers?
Unlike your, my audience is real
Unlike yours, my audience is full of real people – not robots

You know, my friend, maybe my blog will reach 50,000 views/day at some point. Great. Or maybe it will taper off to 50 views a day. That’s fine too. I blog for myself, and, unlike you, I don’t care about the numbers or how much money I make off ads.

Please don’t mistake the reason behind my anger. I give zero fucks about what you think of my blog. Hell, you didn’t even know my name at the time we spoke (though you did find it out the next day and you may be reading this now). I am angry at the opinion you have about bloggers. You have a right to your opinion, but it still infuriates me. And you’re in a position of power. People seem to listen to what you have to say. And if you’re calling people’s work a waste of time and effort, that’s not OK. Who knows how many beginner bloggers you discourage from continuing with their passion?

For any bloggers or bloggers-to-be reading this, hopefully this has been a lesson in having the wherewithal to tune out people like Mr. [redacted]. People are entitled to their opinions, but let’s face it, WordPress, Blogger, etc. are all successful platforms because of people like you and me. There’s plenty of room on the Internet, and it’s important that you know it’s OK to put your thoughts out there and not give a fuck about judgemental idiots who think they’ve got it all figured out. They don’t, and you need to just ignore them.

So I’m speaking on behalf of all the bloggers in the ‘Ham when I say get out. We don’t need your negativity. And we sure as hell never want to attend your conference.

– Tanya


  • Emily McCoy

    I am giving you so many virtual high fives right now. “All in Stride” is riddled with value: exposure to running culture, motivation, inspiration, delicious recipes, and good ol’ Tanya commentary, among other things. I am so glad you aren’t letting Mr. [redacted] deter you.

  • Tim

    Love. This. Post!

    Thanks for sharing, and inspiring me to get off my backside and update my blog with another post (it’s been way too long!).

    I particularly enjoyed the phrasing of this sentence: ‘ I give zero fucks about what you think of my blog.’ – Outstanding!! 🙂 Please, please, please keep writing because you have an audience that really enjoy reading what you have to say!

    • Tanya

      Tim, what are you waiting for?!!

      Don’t you worry – this blog isn’t going anywhere! Short of WP disappearing or blocking my raging ass, I’m here to stay. Thanks, as always, for reading 🙂

  • Baz - The Landy

    Spot on. I write for me, and somehow if people enjoy it, great! But I’m not looking for anything in return whatsoever! For me I read many blogs whilst on the train, and only about real people with real lives!

    And as for stats, I don’t even look at them, preferring to rely on comments for feedback!

    I’m high fiving you sweetie! 🙂

    • Tanya

      Exactly! Stats mean nothing – the comments and feedback and stories that others share with you are much more important and valuable than a number on a chart. It’s sad (and crazy!) that some people just don’t understand that.

      And I LOVE your blog – you live in a photographer’s/outdoor lover’s paradise!

  • Wade Kwon

    This is well written and I endorse every single word. It’s a shame you had to endure such nonsense.

    Let me know next time so I can “accidentally” spill a drink on Mr. Redacted.

  • Yo Momma Runs

    Amen, sistah! Yes, yes, yes. We may not be pros, but we’re having fun and making friends. And I think you make a lot of people laugh. So success! We are all valuable in our own way. So suck it, elitist internet dude who ain’t all that.

  • Jenna

    The connections that bloggers make with one another, through story and word, through picture and comments, through real moments, mean more than any how-to book that will be written.

    You are worth more than his opinion. Thank you for writing this.

  • Amy

    Well said! My blog is tiny in the overall scheme of things, mostly followed by family and friends. I shall never reach 50,000 views a day and I am ok with that. I love reading blogs and catching glimpses into others “normal” lives. This is the first time I have visited your blog, I look forward to reading more. =)

    • Tanya

      Thanks for visiting, Amy! I’m glad I didn’t scare you away 😉

      I read blogs for the same reason – to look into other people’s lives, learn from them, and laugh with them. If nobody but my family and friends followed my blog, I’d be OK with that. Views don’t translate into shared experiences.

  • Bre & Ree

    Thanks for writing this Tanya! It’s an important message! And, at some point, he had only a few followers as well, so thanks for giving this guy a big fat right hook!

  • Gordon

    Nicely done here. I saw that dude, and he didn’t look like he should be condemning Disney runners much less bloggers. I had an old wrestling coach who called jerks and buttheads by this name: “peckerwood.” Seems to fit this guy. Peckerwood

  • Emily

    I really enjoyed (and needed) this read! Thank you for reminding me that just because my viewer numbers aren’t through the roof, it doesn’t mean my blog isn’t important!

    “Does your clique wear pink on Wednesdays, too?” This owned me!

    • Tanya

      Thanks, Emily! Always keep that in mind, and try not to hit “refresh” every few minutes once you have a new post up…Not that I speak from (old) experience…

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